Sex, Spirituality, and Enlightenment

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Often when people think about spirituality they do not think of sex. These two, sex and spirituality, are often kept apart. Either you practice spirituality or you practice sex. And yet, we have ancient cultures and scriptures that tell us the opposite, that tell us that sex and spirituality are united. If we take it a step further and mix in various spiritual teachings from Hinduism, Taoism, and others, then the idea of enlightenment begins to enter the equation.

What is enlightenment? There are many definitions of it. Enlightenment is as the word itself implies, a state of light. It is a state of light that illuminates the world within and the world without. Once the world is flooded with light, we can see everything and hopefully understand everything. Enlightenment is often described as a state of perpetual bliss. There are many ways to describe this ethereal state that we are always searching for. It is when sex, spirituality, and enlightenment combine that confusion, different opinions/philosophies, begin to collide. In certain spiritual practices, sex alone can take you to enlightenment. In others, sex needs to be avoided in order to reach that higher state of consciousness. But many believe that love is where we come from, that it is our essence, our core. Religions like Christianity preach universal love. Spiritual paths often lead to a higher state of love. So how is love, sex, spirituality, and enlightenment reconciled in a practice? It really depends on your beliefs and perspectives on sex, and your understanding or view of the universe.

The one thing that people search for more than enlightenment is love. A conversation on the subway about enlightenment is rare whereas a conversation on love is commonplace. Books written about love or romance sell many more copies than books written about enlightenment. Television shows about enlightenment are rare, if nonexistent. And it is love that often gives birth to wonderful stories of personal transformation. These are the stories friends tell each other, the stories grandparents tell of how they met each other, the stories that captivate because of the whirlwind of love and transformation. It is these common stories, not novels or anything of the sort, that people tell each other, that others hope to experience, that many seek to write through their own actions. Why? Because love is a powerful force. It may sound cliché and all, but because the human heart is always yearning for love, because it is the topic of many many books and philosophers, of nearly all religions and spiritualties, its power is undeniable. How loves transforms a person depends on him or her, but when the power of love is mixed with spirituality something new emerges.

When love for another combines with spirituality you begin to get the first rays of enlightenment in your life. And this happens gradually. Suddenly you see the world differently because you are in love. Then there are the changes that sex causes in a person. And you feel physically more grounded, more alive, and vibrating with vital force. And then, lastly, you add in the spiritual. You complete the circle and become this ball of light that suddenly beams upwards to the unknown. This is enlightenment. Its beginning. And you didn’t have to do any spells or rituals to reach enlightenment. All you had to do was find that special love. To move in enlightenment, because it is a state of existence not a destination, is to move in love.

Here is a video from Acharya Shree Yogeesh. I agree with most of what he says. I believe there are many ways to become enlightened, there is not one true path. I also believe you can reach enlightenment alone, without a physical partner. Everyone has different choices available to them and none is lesser than the other, so long as there is love.  At the center of all of these philosophies is one thing: love. And as long as we hold on to love we will find the light.

 

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8 responses »

  1. Hi Melissa:
    Lately have become addicted to your blog. I want to share with you something I wrote some time ago when I was trying to explain to a guy the reason why I wouldn’t engage in sexual activity only, without love. I wrote this in Spanish so I apologize for that from now and I hope you can translate it better than I would .Thanks
    Sexo es una parte inseparable de cada ser humano, es como un organo vital de nuestro cuerpo, pero no de esos que viene en pares y que aun quitando uno , pues se vivie con el otro. Sexo es como el corazon , el cerebro, le higado, unicos e impresindibles.
    La sexualidad se alimenta de todo, de lo fisico, lo psicologico, lo emocional y espiritual. Y trabaja de forma reciproca con todas esta facetas de nuestras vidas.
    La sexualidad siempre esta presente aunque no haya una representacion o demostracion erotica, lo cual seria solo una expresion de la misma.
    La sexualidad se apoya de igual manera en nuestra salud mental y fisica, siendo asi ese universo tan completo pues se conecta a todo, dando y tomando.
    No es solo una necesidad biologica, es tambien, un vehiculo de union e intercambio.
    Es muy importante ver nuestra sexualidad como algo indivisible de nuestra vida. Es algo que no se puede regalar sin que vaya acompañada de todo lo que somos; y a su vez es muy dificil que al afectarse la misma no dañe todo lo demas.
    No solo se trata de sexo con “Amor”: Si se pregunta, amor? de que parte? de ambas o una solo? (te aman, le amas, se aman?) Es mas bien sexo con amor y mucha conciencia sobre todo.
    Si alguien te pidiera que le des una mano, tu, automaticamente pensarias en “ayuda”.Pero la persona te rectifica y te dice que literalmente te cortes la mano y se la des. Pensarias, que locura! Como voy a cortarme una mano para dartela?, y eso sin pensar que aun te queda la otra mano en caso de que perdieras una.
    Pues lo mismo pasa con la sexualidad. Hay gente que solo quiere sexo, pero como es que te lo cortas y los separas de ti y de las otras cosas a las que esta sujeta para darla a alguien que solo quiere un pedazo de ti, como si fueras pavo de Accion de Gracia!? Como dejar tantas otras partes de mi fuera? Como evitar que esa sexualidad usada no retroalimente negativamente tu mente, tu espiritu, tu propia autoestima?
    Por que pausar una parte de nosotros que funciona como la respiracion, la digestion, la circulacion sanguinea, la produccion de anticuerpos,la produccion de plaquetas,etc? Si te dieran a escoger, cual dejarias de hacer? Inteligentemente responderias, ninguna, pues todas tienen su razon de ser, son parte de un todo y se apoyan y dependen la una de la otra.
    La sexualidad no sobra ni es independiente.
    Esto no es un precepto religioso, esto no tiene nada que ver con Dios, aunque el sea el responsable de mi existencia. Esto es descubrirse a uno mismo, esto es saberse entero, esto es aprender lo que siempre ha sido, lo que somos, y lo que siempre seremos, un todo indivisible lleno de riquezas inseparables.
    Vaya donde lo traten bien y no lo quieran cortar a pedacitos.

    • Thanks for your super compliment! No se preocupe. No tiene un blog? Muchas personas no entienden porque uno hace las cosas. Cada quien tiene sus creencias y vive como quiere. Que bueno que se defendió.

      • No, no tengo blog, creo que deberia iniciar uno, pero con el trabajo que tengo a veces tengo todo el tiempo del mundo y otras a penas me alcanza. Pero no importa, yo comparto siempre, la cuestion es difundir, alertar, ayudar a otros a despertar.
        To be honest , I like to write , but I get really involved when reading, I love reading, so keep this blog up, I ll be coming for more. Animo!

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