Every twin soul relationship is different, but there are certain characteristics that define this relationship. Here are two lists of relationship characteristics for quick reference. The first list is the most common traits of the relationship and the second list is the rarer or more advanced traits.
Common Characteristics of a Twin Soul Relationship:
spiritual revolution (becoming more spiritual, development of intuition and psychic abilities, change of religion or beliefs)
dreams of the other person
ability to feel what the other is feeling
similar life paths or childhood (often the life of one twin reflects the opposite of the other while still being similar)
coincidences (meeting each other without intention, running into each other without planning)
signs (either numbers, colors, symbols, songs, even message sent through people, things that happen at just the right moment to mean something)
feeling like you’ve know this person since before anything (and on the same note, feeling like no one understands what you are going through)
questioning reality and your sanity (Is this possible? Am I going crazy?)
Rarer/Advanced Characteristics of a Twin Soul Relationship:
Telepathy (ability to have full conversations without physically being together)
Sexual Telepathy (ability to have sex without being physically together)
Energetic influence (ability to affect each other’s lives with intent/will and/or through magickal practice)
Deliberate dream communication
Deliberate exchange of thought/ideas/etc.
Knowledge of previous lives
Ability to identify surrounding soul mates, near twin, etc.
The difference between the lists and the different stages of the twin soul relationship is awareness and will. As the twins join together, their awareness expands, allowing them to connect more.
If you think there should be something else added to either list, comment below and I’ll add. To read detailed posts on the topic read this and this.
I read an article today from a men’s magazine. As I was rolling through my Flipboard feed the article came up. It was a Q and A article and the questions were from readers concerning various topics of sex. The first question was from a man who wanted to watch his wife have sex with another man. There were many issues I had with this article, but polyamory was not one of them. The author responded with, “if you really want to watch her make love to another man, then” and this is where something doesn’t sit well with me. The problem is watch her make love to another man. Here’s why:
Make love is euphemism for having sex with a partner. Words have meaning. I know this is redundant, words have meaning (we know!), but words have meaning beyond their literary and linguistic values. Words and even just letters have meaning. The weight of words and letters or syllables are often used in meditations and chants; for example, Om. On top of all of this, words acquire additional meanings, grammatically called connotations, which are the extra meanings we personally and as a whole society attach to words. This is why we should think before we speak and why word choice matters. Words have a conscious and subconscious reach to which we react both instinctively and deliberately. And so, using the word love commonly or when referring to acts that do not actually involve love, strips away its meaning and worth.
The issue is that in the example of the aforementioned article the word love is being used in a situation that is devoid of love. The example is this: A man wants to watch his wife have sex with another man. He explains that he is not gay or bisexual, but really gets excited/aroused when thinking of his wife having sex with another man. That is the mainframe of the situation and this does not include those other situations where a relationship may be established with another man giving shape to a polyamorous relationship. In this case, it is purely sexual and physical. In the case of this man and his wife, the wife would not be making love to another man, rather she’d be having sex with another man. Making this distinction is important in relationships because what if she does end up making love, meaning what if she does end up feeling love for this other person? How would he feel? Would she leave him? Would she be confused?
Sex is sex. Love is love. And then there is affection. These three things can sometimes come on strong and cause confusion in relationships, whether friendships or polyamorous. We can feel so much affection for someone that it begins to look like love, and in a way it is, but something about it feels different. To confuse things even more, there are different types of love (familial, romantic, etc.) So when the word love is used to describe a sentiment that doesn’t quite rise to the weight of the actual thing that is love, the word and idea become hazy and bland. You begin to hit a plateau in your mind concerning love and what it feels like, and it loses its importance which is why so many couples complain about the lack of spark in their relationship. So, it is not that there isn’t love but that your mind has become numbed to it because of overuse and oversaturation of a lofty concept that does not match your reality.
Making this distinction between love and sex is important for your internal wellbeing as well as for the wellbeing of your partner. This distinction is important to make not only in situations of threesomes but also within yourself when you are single and when with your partner. When with your partner you may not always want to make love, sometimes may just want to f***. And that is okay (highly recommended) and it does not mean that there won’t be love, just that the love energies are not going to be raised and it will be a more carnal session. Going into a sex session with certain expectations or expecting that every single time be an emotionally overwhelming and blissful event can breed disappointment when it doesn’t actually happen, making it seem like the relationship is losing its love when in fact it is just a different shade of love. There are different ways of experiencing bliss. There is the meditative bliss, the sexual/carnal bliss, and the romantic/love bliss. See, this is the problem with trying to categorize love and sexuality; there is overlap between the different aspects and experiences. Furthermore, the three blisses can be combined during sex, but it takes meditation and a deep connection to your lover.
In order to avoid confusion in your relationships and within yourself, reserve what matters to you and maintain it clear within you. What this means is that reserve the word love for those things or persons whom you truly feel something special for. Reserve those phrases of affection for those you truly feel affection for. In today’s society, and perhaps this has always and will always be the case, we are taught to mask our true feelings in order to be professional or friendly even when on the inside the contrary is happening. That new psychological trick of smiling even though you don’t feel like it to make yourself feel better will only dampen your experience, so that when you really do smile it will feel no different than your fake smile causing an emptiness to grow within. Be true to yourself and be aware of what you feel. Be aware of the mask you wear, when you wear it, and of the essence beneath it.
What constitutes a regular spiritual practice? The word regular here means habitual. So, a regular spiritual practice consists of regular/habitual meditation, continuous worship, continued exploration of spiritual knowledge, a sacred and personal place for spiritual purposes, and putting into practice the knowledge gained. The key to these things is that they are consistent and a way of life. Truthfully, faith may wane as we go through challenges, and that is okay, but you need to have something to go back to when strength returns to you.
Why? Often we are faced with challenges that bog down our energies, causing a multitude of problems. Negative energy can cause fatigue, depression/sadness, anger, and even health issues. And so, many search for cleansings or for someone to cleanse their energies. The problem with this method of maintaining good energy is 1. you are dependent on another person and 2. you are not learning how to deal with these problems. Whereas if you have a spiritual practice from which to extract wisdom, you’ll be able to handle problems without having to resort to other methods. Not every day is going to be good and when that happens, there is nothing better than knowing how to tackle whatever is challenging you.
Having your own spiritual practice empowers you not only in spiritual terms, but in general terms. Maintaining a spiritual practice will lead to you feeling less alone, connected to the world, to others, and even to the divine. And this will help garner the confidence to go out in the world and realize your dreams and goals. Finding a one time spell or cleansing will not bring about the changes and effects of a regular practice; and if they do, it will be momentary, whether for years, months, or days. Spells and cleansings require replenishment, meaning that in order for the effects to last you have to do them over and over. Cleansings are a natural and vital part of a practice, but doing them without a spiritual frame or without spiritual context is not as beneficial as doing them with the aid of Spirit.