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Twin Souls: The Narrow Telescope

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Twins souls, twin rays, twin flames, whatever you want to call them, dance through the universe, pirouetting around each other. Because of who they are to each other, they focus on each other. Essentially, one becomes the sun of the other. Or one becomes the moon of the other. There is a hint, if not blatant, of worship for the other. This love is deeper than what words can describe and when I say worship it is not in the sense that one bows down to the other; rather that both are in awe of each other and have the utmost respect for each other. It’s almost like you are afraid to touch him or her because everything is as it should be and you don’t want to change that.

There is plenty of confusion out there concerning twin souls. Many confuse twins with soul mates. Many disregard the idea. And then there is the near twin. And there is love in all these different types of relationships, making the thing even more confusing. But what happens to twin souls once they discover each other is that they begin to see the world through a very narrow telescope. This can happen to soul mates. This can happen to anyone. Again, what distinguishes the twin souls is the spiritual aspect of it.

Once the twins discover each other, however that may be (spiritual or physical), they become each other’s focus. Whatever spiritual practice each had starts to be focused on the twin, whether it is about reuniting with the twin, or discovering more about this thing. In a word, obsession. The twins become obsessed with each other. Again, obsession happens to everyone, but it is the kind of obsession and how one obsesses that is different for the twins. The distinctions between these love souls (twins, near twins, soul mates) are sometimes very fine. Because love is so massive, because it is an element of the soul, there is overlap in each category. The universe is fluid, not clear-cut and concrete.

Suddenly, the twins’ main concern is to reunite. They become focused on finding each other or on being together. Friendships are lost or sacrificed in order to allow them to be together. The twin comes first, the twin comes before anything else, nothing matters as much as the twin. This is when each twin starts to lose themselves in the other. Each twin loses sight of what is important. This phase can be classified as unhealthy, but it is inevitable. Although being hyper-focused on another person, it is a part of the twin soul relationship and the benefits outweigh the negative. This is what distinguishes the twin soul relationship from any other, meaning that soul mates that obsess over each other end up losing so much more. The twins will gain much wisdom and spiritual knowledge through this process of integration with the other.

This tends to happen at the beginning of the relationship. Everything is fresh, new, and they are both discovering themselves and each other. But this phase or cycle can stretch out further into the relationship and it happens in waves that vary in intensity. For example, at the beginning the  twins will want nothing but to be together all of the time. Later on, one of the twins will want to separate, to have some personal space. So here the focus will be inverted, yet the focus will remain of the twin soul. This means that things will be upside down, things will be reversed. Some refer to this as a separation cycle and term the twins the runner and the chaser. But each twin will take turns being the runner or chaser.

There, it seems, is very little the twins can do to control these cycles. The twins go through these cycles because they are lessons and these lessons are dictated by the universe.

 

Namaste.

Twin Souls: When Reunion Doesn’t Happen

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wpid-unsplash_women-in-green_ykvgswa.jpg.jpegThe idea and hope of the twin soul relationship is that there be a reunion, reunion being the establishment of the relationship for good with no more separation cycles. But, sometimes, reunion doesn’t happen. Why the twins do not reunite depends on the couple, some are only meant to meet, love, learn, and separate.

After separation, there is pain, confusion, and fear. The thing is, the twins unite everything about themselves. Whether they are physically united or spiritually united, the twins combine into each other. Twins become one. And when they separate there is chaos within them, because suddenly a part of themselves is missing…again.

There is a severe disorientation and a desperation to run back to each other, to return to what is familiar. And when that is not possible, it is painful, like something tearing deep within. The twins can feel their souls tearing, separating. Their souls are literally tearing inside of them, their energies are separating, their consciousness are separating. It is as much a physical event as a spiritual event. Some might get physically ill after a separation, like a cold, a fever, or stomach issues, fatigue, basically small ailments.

The twin soul relationship adds depth to reality, but it also reveals the superficiality and ephemeral aspects of life. Twins learn the value of love while also learning about the transient nature of all relationships. If the twins manage to learn more spiritual knowledge, they may realize the meaning of life; the true meaning of life, not just their own. All this knowledge changes perspective, changes what is real and meaningful, and as long as the twins are together in some form of a relationship, these hard and cold truths are bearable. Friendships are not so important when with the twin because the twin fills up all of the space in the heart of the other. The twin become friend, lover, guide, teacher, and foe.

Separation forces each twin to face the world on their own with their newly found knowledge. Not only that, but each twin is now changed. They are not the same as when the relationship first started and that is the problem. The twins will be confused, they won’t know what to do. It is like being lost, being in an unfamiliar city with no family or friends, and not being able to ask for directions because you don’t know where you are going. Soon after, or immediately after, separation everything will feel empty. The twins will feel empty inside. Though they are not empty within, the missing part of the other will feel like a gaping hole inside. What makes it more difficult is that though the twins are separating or separated, their pain will be multiplied because the other is also suffering. They will still feel each other’s pain until the separation is complete. It is a process that can take days or weeks, or even months. Some might react to the whole situation with anger. A twin might feel angry with himself or herself, with the world, or with the Gods/God, and with the twin. Life will seem like a chore. It will not have meaning; it’s just something you have to do.

And then the questions begin, the doubts may double. Was it ever real? Are twins a thing? Did I really experience all of that? Each twin will have to find the strength within to figure out the answers and to find their way back to themselves.

 

Namaste.

 

Twin Souls: The Physical Signs

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When you meet your twin soul there are not only spiritual signs but physical signs too. Because of the constant and intense exchange of energy between the twins, certain changes begin to happen between both of them.

Physical Sign 1: Gestures/Mannerisms

Twin souls are really two independent souls, two whole souls, and together they form a supersoul. Because they are two physical beings with distinct lives and histories, each has his and her own way of moving and being. Each person has his or her own way of walking, speaking, chewing, dancing, and so on. One of the first things that happen in a twin soul relationship is that they begin to pick up the other’s gestures. At first these changes are so small and subtle that neither realizes that they are doing. The changes are gradual. For example, let’s say that he likes to lean his weight on his right side, put his hands in his pant’s pockets, look over his left shoulder, when waiting. Then, as the time passes and you two get closer together, you start to lean your weight on your right side. Nothing major, nearly everyone does this, but you used to stand evenly on both legs when waiting. Another example: she has this gesture she does where she lifts her right eyebrow at certain thoughts, (impressed, annoyed, whatever). Then one day, a friend or family member stares at you strangely. You ask why. Well, because you’re raising your right eyebrow at him or her. Maybe you were not aware that you were doing that.

These changes, better yet, these exchanges between the twins is due to the loss of identity. Each one is melting into each other, become more and more one. Of course, because each one has a physical body and we live in a physical world, there is a limit to how much the twins can physically become one.

conscious-connectionPhysical Sign 2: Lights

This physical sign starts to come in the relationship once has it reached the spiritual aspect. Once the twins have connected in a spiritual manner, meaning that they meditate or dream of each other, lights begin to appear. These lights are not in the physical world (occasionally they are, but for simplicity, we’ll focus on these particular lights). At this stage, the twin soul relationship has been happening for awhile now. At this stage, the twins are so connected spiritually, emotionally, and mentally that they can communicate with each other without physical speaking or writing. This means that they can either know each other’s feelings without verbally/physically communicating them, or that they communicate through dreams, that they meet through meditative states. One way that these strange lights manifest is when the eyes are closed. Many on spiritual forums share similar experiences, some of them not in twin soul relationships but in the middle of a spiritual awakening. It is often described as white light, strings of white light, and so on. Imagine being half asleep and suddenly lightning flashing in through your window. You quickly open your eyes but there is nothing there; not a cloud and maybe you don’t even have a window in your room. If a neurologist reads this he will probably say we all have a neurological situation going on, but this is the light of the soul. It could be the light of your own soul, your own third eye opening, or the light of your partner’s soul. It could also be the light of the spiritual world, of the higher planes, even of higher beings. Whatever it is, when it is experienced with a partner with whom you have spiritual and deep love connection, it is a sign of a twin soul.

Physical Sign 3: You Become Actual Twins!

It is weird, but you actually start to look like each other. This third sign mixes with the first because they are, in a way, happening simultaneously. Maybe this manifests in your choice of clothes. Colors match, and not intentionally. Smiles begin to seem similar. The way you speak also sounds the same. You finish each other’s sentences. When it comes to physical, biological aspects of the body, the eyes reflect the oneness of the twins. It does not matter that the eye color of the twins does not match, what matches is the spirit within and it is perceived as being the same in both. Perhaps the oldest twins, the ones that have met many times before in other lives, will have physical similarities (for example: similar facial structures). Aside from the physical similarities, the twins begin to move as one. They begin to think almost in the same way. At the highest point of the relationship, where both are the closest they could possibly be to being one, they think and feel as one. But because they are two individuals and are regarded as being so similar they are named twins.

In any other type of relationship there can be some of these physical signs. Soul mates can certainly begin to dress similarly or finish each other’s sentences. It is the spiritual aspect, the spiritual wisdom and knowledge that the twins have and gain through each other that differentiates it from any other relationship. Also, soul mates do not tend to experience spiritual lights, telepathy, or meetings in the spiritual world. There is something of these categories in all relationships because they are all part of the same thing: love.

 

 

Namaste.