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How to Communicate with Your Twin Soul


“Old Pay Phone” by Alex

Twin soul, twin flames, twin rays, come together in different ways. Some twins meet physically and have what we can call a normal relationship. Other twins come to know of each other through dreams, visions, or just don’t move into a physical relationship just yet. And lastly, there are the twins that are separated by worlds, literally. There are instances where one twin is in the spiritual plane and the other is here with the rest of us. This happens when one of the twins ascends before the other. Regardless of a twin’s situation, twins always manage to communicate somehow. For every different scenario, the method of communication is the same; love.

Twin souls are the same soul and they are united by an eternal love. They are each other’s essence. It is through love that the twins can communicate. It may sound cheesy. It may sound like a cliché, but love has no bounds. The love that twin souls feel for each other is the highest love there is although it may not always fully manifest. This type of love holds all of the loves. Communication between the twins happens naturally and it grows gradually.

Dreams. For those beginning their twin soul paths, dreams of the other twin are common. Maybe you see him or her walking ahead in a crowd. Maybe you have conversations. The subconscious is the first to recognize our desires and love brings with it very strong desires. Those desires manifest in dreams and although most of the dream matter, by matter I mean what happens in the dream, is unrelated or foggy to the memory, the communications with the other twin have an unshakable realness to them. So, how do I communicate with my twin through dreams more? Remember that this is a natural part of the relationship, being able to communicate with someone who is not in the same room and without words is natural (unlike other types of relationships). As the intensity of your love for this person grows and his or her love for you grows, communication will grow. This means that dreams of one another will become more frequent. As your conscious mind is more and more occupied with thoughts, fantasizing, and processing feelings for this other person, your subconscious will begin to open up. Once your subconscious, once you fully embrace your love, you’ll be able to reach deeper and find that love connection. It is like Journey to the Center of the Earth. You are drilling deeper and deeper, walking through caves that are dark and hidden beneath the bustling everyday-activities, until you suddenly hit a soft spot on the ground. Once there, you will hesitate. Your heart will beat faster. you’ll tell yourself you’ve gone insane. You’ll want to go back up into the light, into what is familiar. You’ll want to leave things as they are and remain in your comfort zone. But that unignorable thing won’t let you. That pulling you feel will make you jump down into the unknown. And then suddenly you’ll see that you’re falling from a bright blue sky. Suddenly you’ll see a whole new world.

But if you want clearer dreams, or say you have something specific you want to say to your twin, what do you do? The simplest and easiest thing you can do is will it. Every time you go to bed, wish to communicate with your twin. Wish to have dreams of this other person. If your partner feels the same, then you will meet through dreams. Something amazing has to happen for you both to see each other and that is you both have to be in the same sleep cycle. Sleep comes in cycles and the one that allows for dream activity is called REM. But don’t worry about it. I’m just pointing out the fact that once you establish a connection you begin to move in sync through the world.

It often happens that we are not in control of ourselves in our dreams. Through meditation, we can gain control of our dreams. Meditate for ten to fifteen minutes before letting yourself go to sleep. You can either focus your meditation on your twin or you can work on silencing that inner chatter. So long as you meditate, your abilities will grow. To enhance your meditation, add a clear quartz crystal. Program the crystal to bring you mental clarity and to allow you to communicate with your twin.

After communicating through dreams the next level is telepathy. Telepathy is hard to describe. You might be called insane if you describe your experiences to someone. But some say that humans used to communicate through telepathy in the time before language like animals still do. You know that voice you hear inside your head? You know that voice, your own voice? The voice of your conscious? Silence it. Learn to silence it so that the voice of his or her conscious can be heard. Telepathy is more about listening then speaking, at least, in the beginning. For those that have met in the physical and have had a reunion, the telepathic voice will be his or her real voice. Again, each situation is different and this type of telepathy is called aural telepathy. For those who have not yet physically met, the telepathy voice will sound different. Sure, you’ll recognize your own voice but it will feel different, it will sound different.

How to initiate telepathic communication? It will happen naturally. Again, desire and will are what bridge the connection. That intense need to speak to this person, to connect with her or him is what will bring this about. This is why the twin soul relationship is different from all other types of relationships, because telepathy happens only with the belief in the spiritual and through practicing that belief. Meditation is the most effective tool to achieve this type of communication.

Sex. Lastly, there is sex. The twins have a deep, primordial desire to be united. This desire manifests through intense sexual desire, through the intense need to be one. Here is where sex magick or Tantra come into play. Regardless of whether the twins are physically together, the twins exchange energy. At the point of orgasm, focus on your message to the other person. Keep it simple, not whole paragraph. It is more effective if you focus on the love you feel for that person and send it to them, than if you try to have a whole conversation. (Read more here. For a guided exercise click here.)

Twins can say a lot to each other in just moments. As the connection grows communication will get better and easier, to the point that you can have full conversations. Unfortunately, and I have to tell you this, there are laws that we all have to abide by. These laws of the spirit world are mysterious and place a limit to how much you can communicate. Either way, twins will insist. Twins are kind of the rebels of the spirit world. They won’t be stopped.


Twin Souls: Sacrifice


It is a poignant aspect of the twin soul relationship; the deep splitting ache when separated or at odds. Everything requires a sacrifice. In everything we do and in every relationship, we make sacrifices, some bigger than others. The twin soul relationship hides nothing and the soul is bare to the other’s eyes. It is a demanding relationship on a level that had never been experienced. The twin soul love is absolutely beautiful, I don’t know how else to put. The way one gives himself for the other, the way one patiently and agonizingly waits for the other, the way they tear at each other only to build each other up, makes for a most beautiful love. It is the selflessness of the relationship, the dedication that both partners show towards each other, that many find so attractive. Sometimes this selflessness is idealized and unrealistic and even misunderstood by those not in a twin soul relationship. But it is that undying love that moves between the couple that is the catalyst of a spiritual awakening and an eventual ascension.

The twin soul relationship is very cyclical in nature, if that makes any sense. All relationships are in cycles and some we cannot trace with our level of consciousness. For the twins that meet and are confronted with a spiritual awakening their relationship is more than a physical union, more than the fulfilling of carnal destiny. Their union is to awaken the consciousness and to change something, both within themselves and around them. Within the cycles of union and separation there are what I call themes. Each cycle seems to have a theme. Remember that every relationship is unique and in making these generalizations I might be leaving a few things out. (Refer to other posts in the twin soul category.) When I say themes I mean for example that perhaps the twins go through a period where they are working well together and gaining a lot of spiritual knowledge pertinent to their path, which is usually the same path and beliefs because they come from the same place. Another theme might be jealousy, dealing with other relationships and not having enough time for each other, or it seeming to be the case. In the area of jealousy, many things can happen. For example, in the cycles of jealousy soul mates of each twin soul might appear in each twins’ life, interfering and causing trouble. These are also the periods where the near twin can come in and cause deep doubt between the twins.


photo by Dima Pursanov

There are also intense periods of loss of identity. The period of losing the self in the other twin is most common at the beginning of the relationship and the beginning of a twin soul relationship can last for a year or more.

Losing the self in the other twin is tricky. The twin soul love in this way is sinister. You don’t realize that you have lost yourself in the other person and often the changes in yourself are seen as improvements. But in losing who you really are every choice begins to feel like a sacrifice. Conversely and as negative and hard as this may be, it is a necessary part of the relationship. Moments of tension rise and periods of separation start. These periods are intense and deeply painful because it feels like a part of yourself is being torn and ripped away.

These forced sacrifices make it seem like if one does not accept and do the sacrifice then the relationship will end. These sacrifices seem necessary, they feel necessary, and in a way that may seem contradictory, they are. What does it mean to sacrifice something in a relationship? One example I can give is career path. For example, before meeting your twin you were fully dedicated to your career or your passion. Then you meet the twin and things change, suddenly the focus and what is important in your life begins to shift. Suddenly you have a new perspective and it often seems clearer. Time passes and then you start to miss something. You no longer dedicate as much time to your passion or career or other goals and spend more time on this unified path with your twin. Then you have to make choices. You have to make these hard decisions that begin to feel like sacrifices, like you are giving a part of yourself away to the wind. And that is where we presently are, forced sacrifices. And if you turn towards your own path it is like you are turning your back on your twin, causing the other pain, causing yourself pain, and so on. This is a very generalized example and can apply to different facets of life, but the stages are the same: meet the twin and get lost in each other, change each other to what each considers the best or better, let go of yourself more and unite with the twin from physical to spiritual, begin to feel the loss of identity, and the struggle to gain the identity begins. During these times depression can occur, fights, distancing, spiritual confusion, and other struggles.

This cycle of loss of identity leads into the cycle of sacrifice and that cycle is in turn followed by the cycle of struggling to recover the lost identity. In essence, the twins complete the circle and return to the beginning of their relationship. Sometimes it is like the things that happen in the twin soul relationship are already written on some cosmic paper, that they are inevitable. Whether the events in a twin soul relationship, and even in everything else in life, are inevitable and pre-written I do not know. But the moment the twins realize that they have lost who they truly are and begin to go back to themselves is the moment they begin to truly reunite.

This seems to be the last cycle, the struggle to regain their personal identities, before a complete and definitive reunion. How long a couple takes to get back together and how many cycles a relationship has depends on their situation, their ages (both soul age and physical age), their cycle of meeting (whether it is the first time they meet on the physical or if one is in spirit while the other here in the physical).

Regardless of where the twins are in their relationship and level of consciousness, the loss of identity, as painful and dark as it may seem, is a positive thing. When they lose themselves they realize who they really are and their true identities are solidified. And then they reach a full understanding of their love and universal love, as much as the human body allows universal love to be understood.