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Twin Souls: The Physical Signs


When you meet your twin soul there are not only spiritual signs but physical signs too. Because of the constant and intense exchange of energy between the twins, certain changes begin to happen between both of them.

Physical Sign 1: Gestures/Mannerisms

Twin souls are really two independent souls, two whole souls, and together they form a supersoul. Because they are two physical beings with distinct lives and histories, each has his and her own way of moving and being. Each person has his or her own way of walking, speaking, chewing, dancing, and so on. One of the first things that happen in a twin soul relationship is that they begin to pick up the other’s gestures. At first these changes are so small and subtle that neither realizes that they are doing. The changes are gradual. For example, let’s say that he likes to lean his weight on his right side, put his hands in his pant’s pockets, look over his left shoulder, when waiting. Then, as the time passes and you two get closer together, you start to lean your weight on your right side. Nothing major, nearly everyone does this, but you used to stand evenly on both legs when waiting. Another example: she has this gesture she does where she lifts her right eyebrow at certain thoughts, (impressed, annoyed, whatever). Then one day, a friend or family member stares at you strangely. You ask why. Well, because you’re raising your right eyebrow at him or her. Maybe you were not aware that you were doing that.

These changes, better yet, these exchanges between the twins is due to the loss of identity. Each one is melting into each other, become more and more one. Of course, because each one has a physical body and we live in a physical world, there is a limit to how much the twins can physically become one.

conscious-connectionPhysical Sign 2: Lights

This physical sign starts to come in the relationship once has it reached the spiritual aspect. Once the twins have connected in a spiritual manner, meaning that they meditate or dream of each other, lights begin to appear. These lights are not in the physical world (occasionally they are, but for simplicity, we’ll focus on these particular lights). At this stage, the twin soul relationship has been happening for awhile now. At this stage, the twins are so connected spiritually, emotionally, and mentally that they can communicate with each other without physical speaking or writing. This means that they can either know each other’s feelings without verbally/physically communicating them, or that they communicate through dreams, that they meet through meditative states. One way that these strange lights manifest is when the eyes are closed. Many on spiritual forums share similar experiences, some of them not in twin soul relationships but in the middle of a spiritual awakening. It is often described as white light, strings of white light, and so on. Imagine being half asleep and suddenly lightning flashing in through your window. You quickly open your eyes but there is nothing there; not a cloud and maybe you don’t even have a window in your room. If a neurologist reads this he will probably say we all have a neurological situation going on, but this is the light of the soul. It could be the light of your own soul, your own third eye opening, or the light of your partner’s soul. It could also be the light of the spiritual world, of the higher planes, even of higher beings. Whatever it is, when it is experienced with a partner with whom you have spiritual and deep love connection, it is a sign of a twin soul.

Physical Sign 3: You Become Actual Twins!

It is weird, but you actually start to look like each other. This third sign mixes with the first because they are, in a way, happening simultaneously. Maybe this manifests in your choice of clothes. Colors match, and not intentionally. Smiles begin to seem similar. The way you speak also sounds the same. You finish each other’s sentences. When it comes to physical, biological aspects of the body, the eyes reflect the oneness of the twins. It does not matter that the eye color of the twins does not match, what matches is the spirit within and it is perceived as being the same in both. Perhaps the oldest twins, the ones that have met many times before in other lives, will have physical similarities (for example: similar facial structures). Aside from the physical similarities, the twins begin to move as one. They begin to think almost in the same way. At the highest point of the relationship, where both are the closest they could possibly be to being one, they think and feel as one. But because they are two individuals and are regarded as being so similar they are named twins.

In any other type of relationship there can be some of these physical signs. Soul mates can certainly begin to dress similarly or finish each other’s sentences. It is the spiritual aspect, the spiritual wisdom and knowledge that the twins have and gain through each other that differentiates it from any other relationship. Also, soul mates do not tend to experience spiritual lights, telepathy, or meetings in the spiritual world. There is something of these categories in all relationships because they are all part of the same thing: love.









Twin Souls: Sacrifice


It is a poignant aspect of the twin soul relationship; the deep splitting ache when separated or at odds. Everything requires a sacrifice. In everything we do and in every relationship, we make sacrifices, some bigger than others. The twin soul relationship hides nothing and the soul is bare to the other’s eyes. It is a demanding relationship on a level that had never been experienced. The twin soul love is absolutely beautiful, I don’t know how else to put. The way one gives himself for the other, the way one patiently and agonizingly waits for the other, the way they tear at each other only to build each other up, makes for a most beautiful love. It is the selflessness of the relationship, the dedication that both partners show towards each other, that many find so attractive. Sometimes this selflessness is idealized and unrealistic and even misunderstood by those not in a twin soul relationship. But it is that undying love that moves between the couple that is the catalyst of a spiritual awakening and an eventual ascension.

The twin soul relationship is very cyclical in nature, if that makes any sense. All relationships are in cycles and some we cannot trace with our level of consciousness. For the twins that meet and are confronted with a spiritual awakening their relationship is more than a physical union, more than the fulfilling of carnal destiny. Their union is to awaken the consciousness and to change something, both within themselves and around them. Within the cycles of union and separation there are what I call themes. Each cycle seems to have a theme. Remember that every relationship is unique and in making these generalizations I might be leaving a few things out. (Refer to other posts in the twin soul category.) When I say themes I mean for example that perhaps the twins go through a period where they are working well together and gaining a lot of spiritual knowledge pertinent to their path, which is usually the same path and beliefs because they come from the same place. Another theme might be jealousy, dealing with other relationships and not having enough time for each other, or it seeming to be the case. In the area of jealousy, many things can happen. For example, in the cycles of jealousy soul mates of each twin soul might appear in each twins’ life, interfering and causing trouble. These are also the periods where the near twin can come in and cause deep doubt between the twins.


photo by Dima Pursanov

There are also intense periods of loss of identity. The period of losing the self in the other twin is most common at the beginning of the relationship and the beginning of a twin soul relationship can last for a year or more.

Losing the self in the other twin is tricky. The twin soul love in this way is sinister. You don’t realize that you have lost yourself in the other person and often the changes in yourself are seen as improvements. But in losing who you really are every choice begins to feel like a sacrifice. Conversely and as negative and hard as this may be, it is a necessary part of the relationship. Moments of tension rise and periods of separation start. These periods are intense and deeply painful because it feels like a part of yourself is being torn and ripped away.

These forced sacrifices make it seem like if one does not accept and do the sacrifice then the relationship will end. These sacrifices seem necessary, they feel necessary, and in a way that may seem contradictory, they are. What does it mean to sacrifice something in a relationship? One example I can give is career path. For example, before meeting your twin you were fully dedicated to your career or your passion. Then you meet the twin and things change, suddenly the focus and what is important in your life begins to shift. Suddenly you have a new perspective and it often seems clearer. Time passes and then you start to miss something. You no longer dedicate as much time to your passion or career or other goals and spend more time on this unified path with your twin. Then you have to make choices. You have to make these hard decisions that begin to feel like sacrifices, like you are giving a part of yourself away to the wind. And that is where we presently are, forced sacrifices. And if you turn towards your own path it is like you are turning your back on your twin, causing the other pain, causing yourself pain, and so on. This is a very generalized example and can apply to different facets of life, but the stages are the same: meet the twin and get lost in each other, change each other to what each considers the best or better, let go of yourself more and unite with the twin from physical to spiritual, begin to feel the loss of identity, and the struggle to gain the identity begins. During these times depression can occur, fights, distancing, spiritual confusion, and other struggles.

This cycle of loss of identity leads into the cycle of sacrifice and that cycle is in turn followed by the cycle of struggling to recover the lost identity. In essence, the twins complete the circle and return to the beginning of their relationship. Sometimes it is like the things that happen in the twin soul relationship are already written on some cosmic paper, that they are inevitable. Whether the events in a twin soul relationship, and even in everything else in life, are inevitable and pre-written I do not know. But the moment the twins realize that they have lost who they truly are and begin to go back to themselves is the moment they begin to truly reunite.

This seems to be the last cycle, the struggle to regain their personal identities, before a complete and definitive reunion. How long a couple takes to get back together and how many cycles a relationship has depends on their situation, their ages (both soul age and physical age), their cycle of meeting (whether it is the first time they meet on the physical or if one is in spirit while the other here in the physical).

Regardless of where the twins are in their relationship and level of consciousness, the loss of identity, as painful and dark as it may seem, is a positive thing. When they lose themselves they realize who they really are and their true identities are solidified. And then they reach a full understanding of their love and universal love, as much as the human body allows universal love to be understood.








Twin Souls: Pride, Envy, Hate, and Every Sin Possible


“Vanity” by Aguste Toulmouche, completed 1890.

Twin souls or twin rays are just two people who love each other eternally, even through hate, pride, envy, and everything else you can imagine. When there is hate, envy, pride, there is an underlying pain that tears at the soul and this pain stems from that eternal love. Because the love of twin souls is eternal it does not mean that both lovers will always express it or will always be aware of its existence. The twin soul love can be dormant for years and years, through lifetimes and lifetimes. However, one must be careful not to confuse intense admiration or affection or attraction for the eternal love that is the twin flame love. Every one has a twin flame but not everyone is incarnated with their twin. The twin soul is not only about intensity and absorption of the other, but of Spirit and its lessons. Love evolves and grows, it pulsates and expands, and it is mutual.

At the beginning of the twin soul union there is doubt. Are these feeling real? Am I imagining this? It is when the doubt is embraced, when the challenge is accepted and the possibility of failure or loss is embraced, that the doubt vanishes to reveal the truth about the relationship. Being honest with yourself and truly looking at yourself will reveal whether it is your twin. That being said, we are all just people and this means that we all have the ability to feel pride, envy, hate, and every other sin possible. Twins meet through cycles, both in the present life and in lifetimes, and so the challenges they have to face depend on their souls’ experiences. When you meet your twin soul it is because there is something you need to learn, something about the universe and life, that only the twin can teach you. Understanding pride, hate, and envy may be one of those soul lessons that the twin is here to teach you or vice versa. Life is about learning, every little thing we do is not without its lesson.

Again, at the beginning of the relationship there is more taking. There is this rush and desperation to touch the other, to kiss and nibble, to get to know the other in every way possible. The norm seems to be that there is always one twin that wants to know more about the other than the other twin does about the other (confusing?). Some refer to it as the chaser. But I think that once the relationship is established, whether physically or spiritually, there is an evening out of want, desire, and chase. It is during the periods of taking, learning, and growing on each other (which do not just happen in the beginning) that greed, envy, hate, and pride can be exposed. Think of these four things as having been hiding in the shadows of the relationship; they have always been there. These sins come out in the relationship because it is the twin soul relationship. It is and it is not like every relationship; it is not because there cannot be any secrets, it is just not possible. The ill wishes of one towards the other manifest in the reality of the other, and depending on the soul-age of the twins they manifest quickly, or slowly, or not at all. The twins are united by one soul heart which allows them to feel and know each other. If one is jealous of the other, then the envied twin will know and will suffer because of it; and the envying twin will suffer because of the other’s suffering. See, between the two of them they form a circle. This is the circle of life, a circle of love, a circle of everything, and they exchange between themselves everything.


“Moon and Stars” by Melissa Portan

If both twins are going through a cycle of envy, pride, or hate, both will be suffering and it will be evident to each and those around the couple or individuals (if they’re not in an established, known relationship). These are cycles good and bad, like night and day. When it comes to the twins hating each other there can be many reasons for it. One of the reasons is that the hate stems from their subconscious realization that their relationship is not working out, not how they had wanted it, and that perhaps it needs to end. Some twin soul relationships do not last the entire lifetime. Some of these relationships come, change everything, bring about an internal revolution, and then go. It is not possible or accurate to say all twin soul relationships last a lifetime, one twin may die before the other, one twin may choose to not be in the relationship, life circumstances can separate them, and so on. The twin soul relationship is about unification on all levels, from within to without, from the souls to the bodies, and it is also about separation and letting go. The separation and letting go part of the relationship is the hardest and scariest part, but it is necessary. Hate can grow because of many reasons, perhaps he hurt you or she hurt you, perhaps one betrayed the other, and now there is hate and pain. There can be misplaced hate, misdirected hate. The emotions that the twin soul relationship causes or exposes are the same emotions any other relationship can cause, except it is amplified, it is truer; perhaps purer is the better word. The emotions come bare and with full force, the essence of the thing, and there is no escaping them.

Whatever dark situation the twins may face, whichever sin the twins have to deal with, avoiding  the problems will only cause pain. Avoiding these issues separates each twin from their own true selves. This separation  from their true selves is what causes discord, pain, anger, and the separation they are so desperately trying to avoid. Each one, each twin, has to face his or her own darkness and faults. Both twins will force each other, unconsciously and consciously, to face themselves to the very bone. This is one of the things that separates the twin soul relationship from the soul mate relationship. In a soul mate relationship the faults are accepted in a conceding manner, in an understanding manner, where the couple acknowledges the faults in each other and skids around them. Soul mates can live harmoniously and spend a whole lifetime like this but twin souls would tear each other’s heads off. It is not that the twins become perfect and banish from their being all sins, that is not the definition of perfection, but that the twins reconcile their faults and understand them, often overcoming them; basically they reach a full awareness of themselves.

In a way that is difficult to understand, the dark side of human nature is a benefit to the twins. These challenges make the soul wiser, stronger, and kinder. The twin soul relationship at its most fundamental level is about ascension, about achieving higher consciousness, about elevating the soul. That cannot be achieved without difficulties. .





Photo Credit: Melissa Portan

Photo Credit: Melissa Portan