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Spiritual Energy and Sex


Does spiritual energy affect your sex life? Is there a link between our spiritual energy and our sexual endeavors? If you think about the different aspects of life that make up your experience, you find that it is complicated and that in certain cases there is overlap. We are not just our bodies. We are not just our minds. And we are not just our feelings.

At the center of everything that is you lies the soul. The soul sits quietly somewhere deep within and it radiates forward to give manifestation to who you are today. And so, the physical body is born and with it the mind. The mind is linked to this physical body and primarily holds its experiences, not anything previous to birth (though it is possible to unlock your true history). And what of emotions? Emotions radiate from the soul but are affected by the mind and body. Emotions are sometimes affected by hormones, not only in women, but in men too. And so we can see that the body and what comprises our existence is complicated and certain aspects overlap. But always, things can be traced back to the source, to the soul.

The question is: What is the soul? The way that I understand it is a some form of energy that I embody, yet  exists somewhere out there in the universe. The way I see the world is that there is energy all around, both positive and negative. There are forces of destruction and creation which can be observed in nature and in humanity. So, what are the energetic forces that affect our sex lives?

stageskundPrimarily, it is the energy of the soul that controls our sex. What I mean by this is that when the soul is able to express itself fully through your body you will have great sex. The soul and the body have a connection. This connection to the soul exists throughout the whole body and in some areas of the body the energy enters and exits. These areas are known as the chakras. When the sacral and root chakras are open, sex can be great. But because life is complicated and dual, when the sacral and root chakras are the most open, the sex life becomes prominent and can be troublesome (sex addiction, perversion, etc.) So, it is important that all of the chakras be balanced and in tune with your true self. In each person the level of energy flowing through specific chakras will vary. It is not about perfection but about being in harmony with your true self.

What happens when your energy is low? When your energy is low you will feel tired. When your sacral chakra is blocked or slow, your sex drive will be low. You just won’t be so interested in sex or you will not perform as well as you used to or as you wish. What this means for men is premature ejaculation or weak erections. What this means for women is difficulty reaching orgasm or weak orgasms.

We already know that how you feel affects your sex drive. How you perceive things also affects your sex drive. Low self-esteem affects your sex/sexual energy. But what else? What if you are okay? What if you feel like yourself? What if suddenly your sex drive just suddenly dove to oblivion?

Here are a few things that can affect your sexual energy listed from most common to least common:

  1. Stress. Stress causes
  2. Negative Energy (envy, hatred, fear, etc.)
  3. Witchcraft/Spells/Curses
Stress is the most common cause for low sex drive and continually being stressed causes continual low sexual energy. It is a snowball effect, low stress and sexual energy. If you are constantly thinking about what you have to do and when you have to do it and who you need to call and when you need to pay your bills and what you have to cook and what you have waiting for you at work, then sex and sexual thoughts fade into the background. Everything else in life takes precedence, it is prioritized, and sex keeps getting postponed. This in turn causes problems in a relationship, further lowering the sexual energy flow in a couple. Constantly pushing down the sexual desires that arise causes the energetic centers to start to calcify, in other words, it becomes harder and harder to get aroused and when orgasm does happen, it is not as satisfying.
Negative Energy
Negative energy is everywhere and all around us. There are two ways negative energy can affect someone’s sexual energy. The first way negative energy can hinder sexual energy in a person is when it is within the person or when it comes from within, meaning when someone has negative thoughts or feelings towards himself or herself. Being afraid of whatever does not allow the sacral energy to flow. Being angry or hateful may cause very low sexual energy in some while in other it may cause violent sexual energy. Thinking poorly of your body, not being satisfied with your body, causes not only your sexual energy centers to diminish, but also other energetic centers/chakras. And so, it becomes harder to feel good enough or sexy enough to even bother with sex.
The second way negative energy affects sexual energy is when it received from external sources. The idea and belief of the evil eye is ancient and can be applied to all aspects of life including sexual energy. Jealousy/envy and hatred from those around you can cloud your own energy. Negative feelings from a partner can also cause your sex drive to fall, because there is an exchange of energy during sex. This can happen intentionally where it then becomes malicious akin to dark sex magic or dark witchcraft, but it can also happen unconsciously. When someone does not have a spiritual practice and does not regularly cleanse his or her aura and chakras, negative energy accumulates and the effects are felt in those aspects of life that are most vulnerable in that person.
Not all witchcraft is bad and it is mistakenly used a blanket term. What I am talking about here is dark magic, magic that uses negative energy and entities to achieve results. It is the thing of demons, ghosts, and curses. People do resort to the dark arts to cause harm to others, whether jilted lovers, jealous husbands or wives, or just bad people. It is rare but maybe not as rare as it may seem.
How do you know if you are a victim of this type of magic? Negative or dark magic with the purpose to lower someone’s sexual energy is always accompanied by other things. Usually, to lower someone’s sexual energy is not enough and more negative energy is cast so that the victim may fight with his or her partner, or so that he or she may return. And it will seem unnatural, actions will seem out-of-place, and you might even say or feel things you don’t exactly know where they are coming from. Demons are often involved in causing these strange and harmful events.
Regardless of which scenario applies to you, the thing to keep in mind is that there are solutions. The energy of the soul will always find a way to liberate itself and be itself.
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Challenges to Expect When Beginning on Your Path


twopathsANNOTThe moment you decide to leave what you know and explore the undercurrents of your beliefs, you encounter many challenges. There are personal difficulties that you will have to overcome if you are leaving your religion, but there are external difficulties that will try you in many ways. Whether you are leaving a mainstream religion, or acquiring a spiritual path/religion, or completely new to this and exploring, things will change for you.

If you are reading my blog it is probably because you are exploring the spiritual side of life. And this blog is what I learned and continue to learn as I move along my path. We will not have the same beliefs and opinions, but we will probably encounter very similar problems. So here is a short list of the challenges you will most likely encounter as you go.


The most common thing you will encounter as you begin to become comfortable with your beliefs and as you begin to express them, is disrespect. If you are polytheistic, like me, people will laugh at you. They will laugh in your face. I do not hide my beliefs, but I also don’t go around telling people about them. However, if someone asks me what I believe in, I will not hide or mask over my beliefs. I have had people laugh at me when I tell them that I believe in the Greek Gods. It is not until they see that I am not laughing, that they pull back and  say something like, “Well, I guess you can believe whatever you want. Everyone has different beliefs. But for me there is only one god and I go to church.” At that point, I tune out because what they are really doing is just trying to avoid being corrected for their disrespect. I have even had people try to get me to go to church, telling me that Jesus is the way, that church is good, and all sort of things. It is disrespectful, offensive, and dismissive of my beliefs, but I do not let it bother me, at least, not for long.

See, it does not matter if you are polytheistic, or wiccan, or whatever else, people will disregard your beliefs because they believe their beliefs are the proper way. I often repeat myself throughout my posts saying that there are many ways to reach the highest point of existence, but this is not the mainstream belief. The churches of the world have indoctrinated society to believe that their ways are they only ways. And so, people are raised believing there is only one possibility, one path. Whenever you encounter someone who disrespects your beliefs, just let it go. It is not worth your time, effort, and energy. Nothing you say will change that person’s mind, nor should you be trying to force someone to see things your way.

Your Gods will be disrespected. Your beliefs will be disregarded. Your perception of God will be disrespected. It will happen, not only by religious people, but also by skeptics and atheists. Whoever it is that disrespects you, just remember that they don’t really know. They don’t know all of your beliefs and they don’t know your experiences. They don’t know. Remember that.

Usually when starting a practice, the person gets excited and wants to share the great things he or she is learning. And it is then that the person becomes open, vulnerable to criticism that may be painful and even inhibit his or her spiritual advance. What I recommend for anyone who is just starting to explore is to follow the law of silence. Just don’t say anything. Do not share your beliefs with anyone you do not fully trust. Keep your explorations to yourself until you do not feel the need to prove the validity of your path and until you feel grounded in your beliefs. Keeping to yourself allows you to develop your individual path, your own body of knowledge, without the influence of anyone. It is at the beginning when someone is most vulnerable and prone to falling prey to false teachings. Again, this does not mean deny your beliefs, it just means being reserved to a point. In any case, just be aware that you are in the minority and most will not understand your ideas, beliefs, and experiences. Keep an open and compassionate mind.

The Exceptions

There are two religions to which people tend to be more receptive to: Buddhism and Hinduism. If you go around telling your friends and family that you are becoming a Buddhist, sure some will scoff, but eventually, when your actions prove your dedication, they will leave you alone and even respect you. The same goes for Hinduism. Why is that? Buddhism and Hinduism are two very large and ancient religions that have survived the reign of Christianity. These two religions/paths are well established, with millions of followers, and so they are more present in the mainstream consciousness.


Unfortunately, and I speak from my experience here in the United States, specifically New York, if a person does not look like a Buddhist or a Hindu, he or she will get weird and scrutinizing looks. The racial stereotypes associated with these religions still exist and still exercise their limitations in the minds of many. Say you are a blond female and you decide to start wearing hindi garments, jewelry, and the bindi. People will look at you twice, some will even come up to you and ask questions. Say you are African-American and you decide to wear Buddhist clothing, or something similar, or you decide to wear a sari, people will take a second look at you. Whether you are a man or a woman, if you start to dress in a manner that is evocative of your path, people will take note. When someone steps out of his or her culture, his or her society immediately takes note.

If anybody comes to you with racist remarks or questions, consider it stupidity. For how advanced society considers itself, racism should not exist. But it does. Racism is inexcusable and those who act based on it, are stupid. It is possible for someone to be brilliant in some facet of life, yet hold racist ideas/beliefs. This is to say that in the moment someone is saying something racist, asking something racist, being racist, he or she is being stupid, simple, and small-minded. Again, just walk over it and move on.


mytriplemoonANNOTThis is most common for those of you who practice Wicca, but it applies for everyone else too. You will be accused of witchcraft and/or voodoo. You might even be accused of worshipping the Devil. The use of herbs and incense is often associated, in people’s minds, with the occult and dark arts. Divination is also regarded as something forbidden and dark.

It is ignorance that causes people to fear the tools many use in their spiritual practices. When ignorance and fear combine accusations are born. It can be quite horrible and painful when someone accuses you of worshipping the Devil when in fact you are worshipping the Goddess of the Moon or any other deity. But people don’t know and they are afraid of what they do not know. The seriousness of these types of accusations can vary from serious and dangerous to a passing joke. However it happens, however these accusations come to you, if they ever do, try to act from your center. It is important not to lose your center or your connection to the good you have unearthed because of someone else’s ignorance. In the case that the accusations become real threats to your life I think it best to remove yourself from that environment, if possible. It is unfortunate and unbelievable that people still get persecuted for their beliefs, but that is what many around the world experience.

Here in the United States we are fortunate enough to have freedom of and even from religion. However, there are social persecutions that can deeply impact an individual’s well-being. In certain communities of the country, usually in small communities, a person with alternate beliefs may be ostracized.


Continuing on, a change in your beliefs may cause you to lose some friends. Friends and family are a person’s support system, but sometimes part of the warm support falters. Friends might take notice of changes in how you behave, on how you interact with others, and changes in who you are. One of the goals of a spiritual practice is to bring your true self forward, and for some friends and family members, that may be too much. They might claim you are a different person or that you are not being yourself.

Losing someone because of religious/spiritual beliefs is always hard. Once you fully embody who you are, these losses won’t feel so painful because you will be comfortable in who you are, you will have strength and independence, and you will understand.

These are all dark or heavy aspects of changing or acquiring beliefs. You might not experience any of the things listed above. And you must not let the fact the there might be challenges attached to your practice dissuade you from following your path. These things should not be taken into consideration when starting a spiritual path (unless there is a serious threat to your life) and you should follow your heart wherever it leads. Follow your curiosity. Follow your intuition. Little by little you will come to realize that you are on the right path for yourself and that that is what really matters.


Mini Post 14: Most Common to Least Common Causes of Negative Energy


If there is positive energy then there is negative energy. Just as positive energy affects the body, so too does negative energy. Positive energy can improve healing, negative energy can keep you from healing. Positive energy can enliven you, negative energy can make you tired. When it comes to sex, negative energy either keeps you from enjoying it or it will drive you to the extremes of pleasure until it becomes unenjoyable or dangerous.

Here are a few forms of negative energy: negative energy from partner/friends/enemies, negative/dark/evil spirits, curses/spells, negative energy from within, negative energy from illness. Some of the things I’ve listed may sound crazy. Enemies? Dark evil spirits? What is this? A fantasy novel? Curses? Let me guess, flying brooms too? I find it hard to believe in a universe that has only beings of light and love when this world is so filled with hate and pain. I believe that both exist.

Most Common to Least Common Causes of Negative Energy

1. Friends or enemies. Negative energy from friends or enemies. Think of energy as something that flows through everything, like a translucent blanket that changes color, like the aurora borealis. A friend in a bad mood comes to you and tells you his or her problems. You listen, become involved in the conversation, and then he or she leaves feeling better. You feel good about helping him or her. Or maybe you keep thinking about this person’s problems, maybe you feel what they feel, to a certain extent. In this case, there was an exchange of energy, your good energy for his or her negative energy. And this happens daily, naturally, mostly unintentionally. So don’t freak out start running away from your needy friends. There are good ways to avoid this. Now, negative energy from enemies. This is the most common of negative energy around. Envy and hate are the most common. Ill wishes towards someone, for example,Ying_yang_sign can negatively affect someone.

2. Negative energy from within. We have both good and evil within us and it all comes from the same source, the soul. We have the ability to do good things and do bad things. Negative energy can come from within and it can cause physical problems like weak erections, premature ejaculation, weak orgasms, and so on. Part of the problem is mental. How we think of ourselves affects how we feel about ourselves, and that affects our body itself.

3. Negative energy from illness. When we become ill our bodies’ natural defenses become weak. But the spirit to body connection also weakens. It is like the soul is slowly receding from the body and the body therefore begins to malfunction. This makes it easier for negative energy, negative thoughts and emotions, to affect your overall well being.

4.Negative spirits. Why would a spirit want to adversely affect your life? Just to make you miserable, to spread pain. Every religion of the world speaks of dark spirits, it is like day and night, it just is. Negative/dark spirits can sometimes be sent by someone else, which leads to the next point.

5. Curses and spells. The occult is a mysterious and scary place. Those that practice negative things do so because a. they are part of the darkness themselves or b. revenge. So, either you enjoy doing harm to others or someone has hurt so bad that you do everything to hurt them (and this can become a habit that spreads and suddenly revenge/anger/hate becomes a way of life that touches many). If you do a search online (’cause everything is online now) you will find many sites offering spells to negatively affect a lover. You will also find many spells to reverse the negative effects of those said curses.

6. God. Gods and Goddesses. The Universe. Source. This can either be the most common or the rarest cause of negative energy. Regardless, it is the absolute most difficult to explain and the most painful to understand.

So, the most common instance of negative energy affecting someone is the least harmful. And number 2 echoes the saying, “You are your own worst enemy.” Number 3 is also fairly common and through physical remedies along with spiritual nursing, can be overcome. 4 and 5 are a bit more rare, but still happen at a rate that is disappointing. How negative energy affects your life depends on what type it is and where you are most vulnerable. Simply being aware with what you are dealing with, whether it is yourself or from someone else, can greatly weaken the negativity.